Do you realise?!

 


Whenever Greg and I discuss our situation, he always starts with "Do you realise..." The stress that Greg is under, how Greg feels about everything and anything...all about Greg, never about Greg understanding my position or feelings about things. Which is in effect the root of my, and subsequently, our problems.

So I have questions for Greg (Mr I'm the victim here because nobody understands my obviously correct position but I have zero empathy for others even if they are in the same position as me doing the same thing):

Does he really understand why I left to go stay in the UK back in November.
Does he realise that he is hurting/insulting me by starting a new relationship before we have even finalised the divorce, when we didn't even discuss this together and he has continually shown me no respect for my opinions?
Does he realise that it was difficult for me to integrate into life in France?
Does he realise that it was difficult for his mum who speaks fluent french and grew up in France to get used to living in Lannion.
Does he realise that it is more difficult for someone who doesn't speak french fluently, has never lived in France before, is not white but British born Asian could encounter more difficulties in living in a remote part of France than his french mother?
Does he realise that it was not only difficult for him, but difficult for me to watch his mum shout at his dad that she wished he was dead?
Does he realise that it was difficult for me (not just him) to watch his dad deteriorating. Does he realise it was difficult for me (not just him) to watch his mum deteriorating and struggle to look after his dad and herself.
Does he realise that he effectively had control of all our finances in France.
Does he realise that he took a unanimous decision on not investing in Ty Cosy without discussion with me?
Does he realise how isolated I was in France?
Does he realise that his actions and behaviours have led to me acting the way I am acting/behaving now? 

Does he realise any of this? I doubt it. Is he capable of understanding this? He should be, but he refuses. But it still upsets me.

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