Lies, Untruths and Subterfuge...

 

Lies

Greg his repeatedly insisted that he is unable to get a mortgage on our jointly owned house in France as he can only get a mortgage to buy me out of my half of the house, after the divorce has been pronouced in the UK (with a copy of the final order - that he will show to the Notary but not register within the French adminstation system because of it affecting my french citizenship application - which he had promised to help me out with) so that the Notary can transfer the ownership of the house in France to soley Greg's name.

 

Having spoken to a French "juriste" (legal expert but not a lawyer) associated with CIDFF (Centre d'Information sur les Droits des Femmes et des Familles) she tells me this is a lie, and despite what Greg has been insisting is "it's different in France". The mortgage credit is based soley on Greg's salary, which has nothing to do with the transfer of the deed titles or the divorce.

Untruths

Greg has been insisting on using the 2021 price that we bought the house in France for as the price point (of his very generous, according to him, divorce settlement that he drafted very quickly and easily in March 2024) for what he is working from. The same divorce settlement also uses Greg's estimate of all our personal posessions, without a clear list of what belongs to whom or the value of jointly owned items. Greg only provided a breif outline of "important" items with some values attached 6th August, the values with each item was assumed (by Greg) to be the current value in the state that they are now (in Euros), and that he would be keeping all the items in the house as they are currently.

Having spoken with a UK divorce lawyer, both these assumptions by Greg are untrue. The house in France should be valued by 3 independent estate agents and the average of this current market value should be used in the divorce settlement. Personal possessions take a long time to divide and share, there are many ways to go about this, but the general principle is that you BOTH have to go through all the items together and agree what is individual, what is joint, and with the joint items they need to be split with roughly equal value. Citizens Advice also says:

"Decisions about furniture and white goods

If you’re trying to put a value on things like furniture or white goods, it’s a good idea to estimate their new value - rather than how much you could sell them for now.

A 10 year old sofa that you shared with your ex-partner might only be worth £100, but the cost of replacing it if you have to move into a new home would be a lot more."

The French "juriste" said the same about the house value, that it should use the current value of the house and usually 3 independent valuations are taken, at least 1 has to be from each party.

Subterfuge 

After the whole incident of having had me sent to the local A&E, Greg felt it necessary to write an email to my mother and brother, copying in his brother to excuse himself of his actions.

My brother (very sensibly) doesn't want to forward me this email, I assume because he feels (quite rightly) that all it will do is upset me more, and i'm already quite upset as it is!

But his summary was that: Greg doesn't understand why I am accusing him of domestic abuse. Greg didn't call the police to the house on the 21st August to have me arrested, he called the police because he was concerned for my welfare because I had written somethings that alluded to suicide.

If Greg was concerned for my safety why:

1. did he tell me that he was going to call the police to get me arrested for "destroying his house"?
2. did he go to the police station to get bring them over to the house?
3. when the police got to the house, was the first thing he did is take them to see what I had written and not check on me or send a police officer to check on my welfare?
4. did he not call or message my mother or brother (who he has mobile number for!) to ask them to speak to me or check if I was ok?
5. did he not try and take me to Lannion hospital himself? Where he knows that there is a 24hr mental health unit for cases where people are having breakdowns or panic attacks as the out of hours doctor at the hospital told us about it last time that I had a breakdown?
6. did he not call the ambulance directly, from the house, rather than going to the police station to bring police into the house?
   
7. did he only call the ambulance after 1hr of the police having come to our house and having inspected the "vandalism" (I prefer to call it some emotive redecorating) which is perfectly legal as it is still my house and good taste is not a crime! Also, chalk pen is made to wipe off really easily... and the posca pen happens to clean off very easily too.
8. after saying to the ambulance drivers, that he would follow us to the hospital, and they told him that come in 1-2hrs as she will need to be processed into the system, did he decide that he would go have lunch in town with his new girlfriend rather than bother to check on me?